There may be some nervousness, a little anxiety, and or perhaps, you may even have a bit of being excited during your first visit at a fertility clinic. However you’re feeling right now, having a physician and clinic that you trust will bring you comfort throughout the process. Getting a sense of your doctor, their bedside manner, and the clinic can help you feel confident about pursuing treatment with them.
While clinics may vary on exactly what the first visit will entail, I’m here as a fellowship-trained reproductive endocrinologist and infertility specialist and board-certified OB-GYN at Spring Fertility to help you get an idea of the typical flow of the appointment — and know what questions to ask — so you can be fully prepared.
At the first consultation, you’ll usually have between 30 and 60 minutes to meet your fertility doctor and have them conduct an in-depth review of your medical history:
The transvaginal ultrasound is an important initial step in the fertility evaluation (though some patients are surprised by this portion of the exam). If you’ve never had a transvaginal ultrasound before, you can expect a little vaginal pressure, but typically no pain. How it feels is similar to a speculum exam or Pap smear.
Why transvaginal ultrasound instead of abdominal? A transvaginal ultrasound goes into the vagina and gives us a more clear and detailed view of the uterus and ovaries, which are extremely important as we assess your fertility. By looking at your ovaries and uterus, your doctor will be able to:
You might think you need to time this ultrasound around your period, but there’s no need to — we can conduct it at any point during your menstrual cycle.
Other types of fertility testing that may happen at your first or subsequent visits include:
At your initial visit, your doctor will go over the best treatments for your individual circumstances, whether you’re dealing with infertility, conceiving on your own, or conceiving with a partner who also has ovaries. This conversation is your time to get the information you need from your potential doctor about what working with the clinic may be like and what their success rates are.
In the weeks or months leading up to your appointment, start writing down any questions that come up so you can bring them to your fertility doctor. Preparing questions can help you make sure you leave your appointment feeling informed about your fertility and next steps. Remember that as a patient, it is your right to ask questions and it is our job as physicians to educate you (and your partner if you have one) on your options. Asking questions allows you to get a better understanding of your physician and their clinic — and can help you start to set expectations regarding your reproductive goals.
Since knowing exactly what to ask and when can be challenging, I’ve rounded up a few important ones to get answers to so you have all the info you need to make the right decision for you.
It’s important to have the full story when it comes to the treatment options the clinic provides, from scheduling protocol to whether or not they can support you from start to finish.
When discussing your treatment plan with a potential doctor, it can be helpful to know your ideal timeline for pregnancy so everyone’s on the same page. Another consideration for people using donor sperm and/or eggs or a gestational carrier is that the clinic may require a psychological consult before undergoing treatment. If you’re using a known egg or sperm donor rather than an anonymous one, the clinic may also require a legal contract.
Questions to ask:
This can be a major hurdle for individuals and couples pursuing fertility treatment. The average IVF cycle in the US costs approximately $19,000 — and, oftentimes, many standard insurers do not cover fertility treatment (but may cover the infertility workup). Some states require insurance companies to cover fertility treatment, including IVF, but may have pre-authorization coverage such as a minimum amount of time trying to conceive on your own or a requirement to have a certain number of IUI cycles before pursuing IVF treatment.
The insurance pre-requisite of “trying on your own first” isn’t an option for people who are trying to conceive on their own or with a partner who also has ovaries. In either instance, this limitation of many insurance plans will impact the ability to get coverage for fertility treatment.
Questions to ask:
The ultimate goal when starting treatment for infertility is to achieve a pregnancy, so it’s important to discuss success rates of different treatment options with your doctor so you can manage expectations.
Questions to ask:
If you decide to proceed with fertility treatment, there’s a high likelihood you’ll be spending a good amount of time at your clinic while also balancing work and other priorities. It’s important to understand what the day-to-day flow in the clinic is like so you know you’ll feel comfortable and supported in the process.
Most ultrasounds for fertility treatment are done starting in the morning and ending in the early afternoon so blood work can come back the same day to facilitate the medication changes and trigger timing and prep. That said, different clinics will have different layouts in how their monitoring and procedures may work:
Questions to ask:
Ultimately, you want to find a clinic that works with your schedule and matches your expectations during the fertility treatment process.
If you don’t feel a connection with your physician or feel good about the clinic, don’t hesitate to get a second opinion regarding your care and treatment plan. You owe that to yourself. Your first appointment is your opportunity to vet your physician and the clinic to make sure you feel comfortable and supported.
The journey through infertility should be a partnership between the physician and the patient — and we, as physicians, want you to feel adequately prepared and informed for the process. Know that the right physician and clinic will have your back and support you every step of the way.